Online, communication patterns are all you have to judge each other by. When I realised that, the communication with others in different games went smoother on my behalf as well, as I learned to phrase my words more suitable to the role I played. An interesting interlude appeared however when I changed gender. The same administrators who had not trusted me as a woman, were delighted with me as a man. Reading Deborah Tannen, I suspect that my communication patterns are a lot more male than female. Online - I make a better man